Funny How The World Doesn’t Stop…

Hello bloggy friends,

I am here once again to explain why I have lately not been the ball-of-blogging fire that I usually am.

Back in July I told you my aunt and three cousins were in a horrific car accident while vacationing in California (they live in Pennsylvania, where I do). My aunt and one cousin did not survive  (Original Story). My other two cousins were left in critical condition. This lead me to be less than regular on my blog and responding to my emails in a timely and professional manner (something I have always prided myself on).

I am happy to say that after months of rehabilitation (both mentally and physically), my cousins Sequoia and Elizabeth, their surviving siblings and my uncle were feeling mentally ready to have a memorial service for my Aunt Beth and cousin Savanna. Our family’s lives were getting back into their normal groove.

Savanna and Aunt Beth

And then another accident.

Literally on the same day my Aunt India and my mother were sending out the memorial invitations, my cousin Steven (son to my Aunt Beth) was in a horrible motorcycle accident. Our lives went on hold again. Steven lost his leg and was left in critical condition on a ventilator. This was two weeks ago. Steven has some moments of consciousness where he responds to commands. We are hopeful he will continue to improve over the next weeks.

This is a lot for me to process and I have been faltering in my usual routine (again). I thought today about how life continues all around you. Nothing stops when you are thrown into life-altering circumstances. For a few days after Steven’s accident, I think even more than the one that took my Aunt and cousin, I felt like I was just watching life, not taking part in it – I think it’s because I am getting older and I am understanding the reality and permanence of death.

But I am also reminded of the Epictetus quote – “It’s not what happens to you, but how you react to it that matters.”

The quote will be my rally cry over the next few days.

It feels much better to ride the wave than be caught in the undertow.

My cousin Monique has set up a Go Fund Me page to help with Sequoia and Elizabeth’s medical and rehabilitation expenses. Please keep the family in your thoughts and prayers.

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  1. There are so many things that happen in this world, some so very close to home. Even as an adult, it is difficult to process many of those things that don’t fall under the “Winning” category.

    The quote you mention is a great foundation block to build from in dealing with all that is going on. Prayers to you, your family, loved ones and friends 🙂

  2. I’m sorry to hear about this latest incident. I hope your family is moving forward and you have the time you need to play your part. I’m very sorry for all the tragedy you and your family are living through. All my best. – M

  3. Erik, please know love is being sent your way and prayers have been spoken for your family. Sometimes, life – to be blunt – just sucks. I know exactly how you feel about the world not stopping when your own life is in crisis mode. Been there, done that, will do it again. That’s part of life. But you will find your strength in the One Who is Strength.
    You will come through.

  4. Oh Erik this is so heart breaking. Please know I am sending up prayers for Steven. Keep us posted if you feel up to it.

  5. Dear Erik:

    I’m very sorry to hear this. Hold on strong to that quote. For sure, you and your family are in my thoughts. Take good care of yourself, ok?

    With my warmest love,

  6. Oh, my young friend. Please know you and your family are in prayers. If I could give you one gift, it would be the gift of rest. True rest in the One who created green pastures to restore our soul. Not only did He give the gift of rest, but God knew our propensity to continue working, so He commanded rest. You have a wonderful reputation within the writing community and your work is valued. You may rest and grieve and wrestle without explanation or guilt. Your readers will wait and many of us will uphold you in prayer while doing so.

  7. So sorry for all of this! Praying for your family

    Sent from my iPad Joan Leotta Author, Story performer


  8. So sorry to hear this, Erik. Your family has certainly had more than your share of sad events this year. I hope you are all coping OK. Blessings to all of you and prayers your cousin will make a complete recovery. I love the picture of your aunt and cousin. Two lovely angels. <3

  9. You are young to experience so much loss. Sometimes observing helps you see the grace and goodness of people when something so tragic happens. The Epictetus quote is one of my favorite quotes. I have personally dealt with a lot of trauma and loss in my life and have learned along the way that life is a test about how I handled the situations. Believe it or not, it will make you stronger and appreciate family and life. You are learning a lesson much earlier than I did. Prays and love to you and your family. Your cousins will need a lot of support. Blessings to all.

  10. Hey Erik,

    Wow. This is a lot to deal with. But you’re facing it well. A lot of people never learn the lessons you are mastering now. My sympathies, thoughts and prayers will indeed be with you.

  11. I am so very sorry to hear this, Erik. My prayers go out to you and your family.

  12. I have missed you so much. Sending you an email. PLEASE hang in. I PROMISE you it will get better. All my love,

    Guess Who 😉

  13. Oh, wow, E. That is a LOT to process – even for a grown-up young man like yourself. Mom and I said prayers for your family to recover and to stay strong through this and for the doctors, nurses, and therapists to be wise and compassionate and skilled. We look forward to your usual cheerful, fun posts in the near future, when you can get your feet under you and when your life gets back to the new normal.

    Love and licks,

  14. I am so sorry to hear about this second accident. Saying prayers for recovery and support for everyone in your family. Let us know what we can do to help.

  15. Oh, Erik, I am so grieved to hear how much you and your loved ones have had to face. I have stayed away from the bloggy world a bit myself recently, so coming back in to hear your news now is a shock. I will keep you and your family in my prayers now.

  16. Such a whole load of stuff happening in one family. It makes you wonder, sometimes. But it is just life and it can deal people several blows at once, or let them slip gently through without much happening at all. What I’m trying to say is, be strong for those that need your strength, and accept help from those who know that even your strength isn’t enough all the time. Your friends are with you, always.

  17. Oh my goodness, Erik my sincere condolences for all your losses. I’m so sorry to hear such sad news. That is super sucky to have two in a row. Take your time with everything. Prayers for your family x

  18. Erik –There will be better days ahead. In the meantime, you and your family are in my thoughts and prayers.

  19. Oh, Erik. I’m so sorry. Such a tough time for you and your family. Really and truly, don’t worry about us. We’ll be here whenever you have time and feel like writing. Right now might not be the time for you to try to be keeping up your blog or with your emails. People understand. Just do what you need to do to deal with all of this tragedy. Sending best wishes for your cousin’s recovery. Take care.

  20. Thoughts and prayers with you and your family.

  21. I’m so sorry to hear about the tragedies that have hit you and your family. If you check your email, you’ll find that I’ve sent you a surprise. I hope it cheers you up. All the best to you and your family.

  22. I’m a newbie here and I just came across your post. I really am sorry for what you and your family are going through- It would be a lot for anyone to go through-I am sending out prayers and strength for you all. Also for good news about your cousin Steven.

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